What is it, what does it look like, and how to get better at it.

Dudes, this one is for you, although I think a lot of women will get that, “oh thank god it’s not just me” feeling on reading it. Particularly the part towards the end that lists out a bunch of the more unpleasant (and common) interactions.

Intentionally making myself unavailable for emotional labor was one of my early rejections of femininity as a teen, although I wouldn’t have known to phrase it like that at the time. As a result, I live on this kind of knife-edge where I’m constantly aware of the labor that’s expected of me, while at the same time often intentionally choosing not to do it. It… doesn’t always work out well, let me put it that way.